New Year – New Start – New Fun

Happy 2013 to Everyone!!

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I guess I lost the blog “bug” awhile back. Life happens…right?

So, I figure the Mayans were wrong and we are all still here chugging away at life. It seems like the perfect time to start fresh and get back to blogging all about my life and feelings! Yay for all of you!

I don’t usually have New Years Resolutions, but, I think this year I’m going to have a few and perhaps blog about how I am doing with them periodically through 2013. That way I will either:

A. Keep up with them..or

B. See how funny they were in 6 months when I haven’t thought about them again.

So….here they are: New Years Resolutions for 2013:

1. Be part of a Flash Mob (if anyone hears of any in Central Fl. let me know!)

2. Remain positive while at work at least 3 days a week. : )

3. Be Healthy – this is a general goal that makes sense to me. Just be healthy.

4. Work towards a fun and successful blog (it’s hard work)

That’s it for 2013. Those are my goals. I hope to write more specific blogs on some of them as the year goes on.

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Being Thankful

This post is a smidge on the late side huh? I guess life swept me up again and carried me away!!

I started this post about being Thankful before Thanksgiving which is the day that EVERYONE in the blog world was posting about being thankful …. soooo to keep up the tradition of being a Griswold and an always Late Laura, here is my Thankful post!

I’m thankful this year for my husband and our second year of marriage. We made it yet another year in this hard hard world. I love you my super cute stinkapotamus!

I’m thankful for my wonderful family. This includes my husbands wonderful family as well. I have so many caring people in my life.

I’m thankful for the fact that I have a job, a car and a house. So many people in our country, state and town don’t have 1 or more of these things. Being that it is after Thanksgiving, I am now thankful for a wonderful family filled Thanksgiving holiday. It was awesome. I love all of you and wish we could have more days like that! Looking forward to Christmas!

I’m thankful that my cousins baby girl was born beautiful and healthy this year.

I’m thankful for the show “How I Met Your Mother” I just recently started watching this show and I LOVE it!

I’m thankful for friends close and far. You are all great and wish that everyone was close to me all the time. Thank you all for everything!

I’m thankful for “The Vampire Diaries” too and Ian Somerhalder – He’s hot!

I’m thankful for delicious dinners and TV shows with my teenager, once in a while she makes me feel young.

I’m thankful for girls days full of snacks and Twilight movies – Including Breaking Dawn which I am so thankful I was able to see it already.

So anyway… what are all of you thankful for this season and this non-thanksgiving Tuesday?

 

Avoid Close-Ups

When looking at Earth from space it looks beautiful and peaceful. It appears to be a wonderful place with a lot of beauty.

Don’t look to close though, appearances can be deceiving. Our Earth, our home is becoming more and more ugly the closer you look. While it’s still full of wonders and natural beauty, the human kind is slowly making our world an ugly place to be.  We are cutting down much of the natural beauty to make more room for people, we litter, we pollute, we kill. It’s a vicious cycle that is hard to break. So don’t look too close and you can still see the beauty of our world.

Physical and Inner beauty of a person is much the same.

A woman may look like a stone cold fox from your seat at the table, but those sitting right next to her may have another story. It could have to do with physical beauty and perhaps when close enough, you can see the flaws in her skin, the pimples, the discoloration or her scars.

The deception could be in her inner beauty though, and that’s much harder to find and you sometimes have to look even closer to see that’s she’s an ugly person.

In reality, almost nothing is perfect and we can’t expect that everything will be. Everyone you meet will have a flaw, that perfect, brand new car will soon be dirty. You can’t please everyone and everyone can’t please you. Just avoid the close-ups.

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“All of us failed to match our dreams of perfection. So I rate us on the basis of our splendid failure to do the impossible.”
William Faulkner

Filter or no filter

I met Matt in 2003. At the time, the teenager was a cute chubby little 6yr old ball of fun. Like most children, she had no filter on her conversations. I sure did love that kid though and was quickly falling for her daddy too.

She's actually 9 in this picture..I didn't have a digital camera yet when I met her at 6yr old!

One particular day as we were all sitting around the house, that cute little squishy face asked me “When are you and my daddy gonna get married? “Was this adorable? Yes! Was it awkward as I sat there wide eyed, mouth agape trying to come up with an appropiate answer for a 7yr old? YES!!! I had only known Matt for a mere 4-5 months and I think marriage was the last thing on my mind. (His too considering we didn’t wed for 7 more years!)
I think Matt was appalled that she would even ask this question and for sure thought he would never see me again, what with my running for the hills and all. LOL!
I love kids though and have been around them my entire life and I know their minds and was in no way offended. It was awkward though! 
 
Another wonderful time with little squishy face, involved her bringing up the dreaded “ex”. Oh yes my friends, this little ball of joy brought up the ex in such a manner that it was awkward for all involved. She simply wanted to know if her daddy remembered the time they did this with “her” and it caused complete silence to ensue. I’m no silly jealous girl though and wasn’t bothered by it all. I wasn’t silly enough to think Matt had no ex’s and that this little cutie had never had another woman in her life. 
 

Me and the Teen years ago. (She made us get matching shirts!)

 
What is it about kids that cause them to say the worst things at the worst moment? We think they have no idea, but is this actually true. It seems more like they DO know exactly what they are doing and just like to see adults squirm!
All these years later that little squishy kid has grown into a beautiful teenager and guess what?? Still no filter! I cringe sometimes when we are conversing with strangers.
 
I sure do love her though with all my heart and soul, filter or no filter.
 
So tell me, do you kids have a filter? If so, how did you install it? If not, tell me about an awkward moment in time.
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Joys and Woes of aging

Over the past few months, much of our lives have revolved around age related things.

We started off with the teenagers birthday. Not much changed as she went from 14 to 15. She still the same wonderful teenager she was at 14. She has a little more knowledge and a little more maturity than she did this time last year. The year made a bit of difference but not a lot.

She's so beautiful!

We also celebrated my …. ahem…25th birthday. I sure love being in my 20’s! Ok, so I’m lying. I’m now 31. I think 30 is the actual age that you start to forget how old you are and you have to really THINK about it. I just did. I knew I wasn’t in my 20’s but how old am I? Oh riiighhttt…. ugh…31! I don’t usually feel 31 though so that’s a good thing – right?

Can anyone name the show this is from?

My baby cousin gave birth to her first child at the age of 20. She then turned 21. She was just a baby in my arms the other day and now I’m holding her daughter in my arms, 21 years later. This is actually the first time I held the baby of a baby I used to cuddle with years before. It’s surreal actually.

My grandmother passed away recently as well. It’s not the same rejoicing moment as a birthday or giving birth, but it does bring up age and aging. She was in her 80’s and to many, that’s a great long life. I have talked with older people before that feel 80 is quite an accomplishment. Her 90’s or even 100 would have been better. We would have had her with us that much longer. I miss her. In reality, I would not have even seen my grandmother in months. She doesn’t live near me and I only saw her once a year when she was here for her visit. But somehow, knowing you will never see someone again makes you miss them more, no matter what.

Love and Miss her!

My mommy turned 50 this month! The big five-oh! She took an awesome trip with my dad to California and got to do a lot of amazing things that she has always wanted to do. They went to “The Price is Right”, The Tonight Show, some great restaurants and saw some Hollywood sites. I’m glad she got to go and have an awesome time for her birthday! Happy Birthday Mommy and Thanks for the awesome gifts!

My mommy years ago.

My mommy and daddy just 1 year ago.

 I don’t feel 31, I don’t think my mom feels 50, my husband doesn’t even know how old he is, my much younger baby cousin is having babies and the teenager is aging with rapid pace and soon to be off to college leaving us behind. So how much does age affect us on a daily basis? When exactly do you start to feel old? Or feel your age? I know I feel older than I did 10 years ago but in reality, not that much. So how much does age matter once you reach a certain point? This is a thought that changes with age. How ironic.
 
As a child you think age does matter and you want to be older so you can do all the cool stuff and stay up late.
As a teenager, it is much of the same thoughts with thoughts of boys mixed in and how the age difference shouldn’t matter.
Ages start to become less important in your 20’s and you don’t think age is such a big deal anymore.
Once you have children age plays a part in your life once again. Your babies are growing up and aging quickly, and with boys the age difference matters big time, when it comes to your teenager!
I haven’t figured out when it changes again. When does your thought process on aging change in life once again?
 
What do all of you think about age? Do you feel it? Does it matter to you? I rambled a lot in this post but that was the thought process in my head this morning. So – tell me what you think!
 
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Thoughts of a step-child

I am a step-daughter, a step-grand daughter, a step niece and a step cousin. Yeah I guess that’s the title some would use when referring to what I am.

I did not know my bio-logical father or his family. They all disappeared from my life when I was 3 and my tiny little person mind has no recollection of these people.

My mother remarried when I was 7 and thus marked me as a step. But what does this mean really? Nothing much in my mind or my world. I was never once made to feel as if I was not a regular member of my new fathers family. For as long as I can remember, my dad is my dad and my gram is my gram and my cousins are my cousins and my aunts and uncles are just that….aunts and uncles. I refer to them all as such and none of them ever have the prefix of “step”. They are all my family and I love them just like the family on my mother’s side that I have known since birth.

In my adult life I also became a step mother. The teenager is not biologically mine, however, she might as well be. I love her as if she were my own, I protect her as if she were my own and would give my life for her as if she were my own. I don’t see where there is much of a difference in a step family and a biological family besides the shared blood line, and I have seen those that share blood be more cruel and hateful to each other than any of my so-called “step” family.

The reason for this post I guess is because I wanted to get some things down and out of my head. My Gram died this weekend and even though she was my step-grandmother, I know my heart feels as if I lost a grandmother and in my reality, I did. I lost my grandmother, my actual grandmother. I haven’t seen her since early this year and I missed her before but I really miss her a lot now, it’s a different type of miss. It’s funny how that works, you have no idea how much you miss someone until you know you will never see them again.

I didn’t spend as much time with her when she was here as I should have or would have liked to. We learn lessons in life and even tell ourselves that life is short and we never know what can happen and that we should be with loved ones and live life to its fullest and of course follow my husband’s blueberry muffin theory on life and I know I try, and I am sure everyone tries but the daily grind of life sometimes makes it difficult as we fool ourselves into thinking that we are too busy or that we will make time for sure this weekend.

So to my grandmother, the one who loved me regardless of our bloodline and never treated me differently than her other grandchildren – I am sorry we were not as close the past few years.  I thank you for being so wonderful over the years and for all the love and kindness you gave me. I never felt like anything other than another one of the grandkids. I miss you and I love you.

Do any of you have step family? Are they as wonderful as mine? Any words of wisdom? Please share with us.

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Just a Random Thought for Today

I hate forwards. I am talking mostly about email forwards but I am now seeing them on Facebook and other social sites. Now it is even more annoying than when it was just in my email box.
Of course I don’t mean every forward so please don’t get all offended or pissy with me. I like when people send me something funny or cute to entertain me. I just hate when that email says “now send this to 25 people who need to smile today!”  Oh and it also says to send to the person who sent it to you – or you don’t like that person!

I also hate the religious forwards that claim I don’t love God or believe in God if I don’t send the angel on to more people. I pretty much delete all of those and I am to the point of not even reading the email at all. Does this mean I don’t believe in God? The emails basically say if you don’t believe then delete.

And if all of that wasn’t bad enough now we get to see them in text messages too !

Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw:Fw: Send this message to 17 people in 8 minutes or God will eat a kitten !

From the looks of all of those “Fw:’s” it seems that many people got that text & thought “Oh my ! not a kitten, why God why!?” and then rushed into the contacts & hit select all for a nice group text. Shew !…saved a kitten!

Come on people, if God is going to eat a kitten your text message is NOT going to stop him ! I don’t want this text, I don’t read this text and I am not forwarding this text to anyone. I like kittens as much as the next person but some things are just out of our hands !

If you absolutely MUST send this text, those “Fw:’s” can be deleted ya know ! You don’t have to add another one each time. Unless doing that will make God eat a whole kitty litter (nice pun!) but if it says that in the text I missed it because I didn’t read it.

A lot of my day is spent weeding through forwards in my email. I skim through a forward for key words like Angel, God, Kitten, and then usually delete the forward unless it has really great “People of Walmart” pictures! I look at those and guess what? I forward them too – after deleting all the FW’s from the subject line!

Once I leave work I have to deal with forward texts, and most of them are the same forwards from my email but without the cute little pictures of crap.

Am I crazy? Does anyone agree with me here? Tell me about it so I don’t feel like the only loser not saving kittens from God’s tummy!

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50 Years of Love

That’s a picture of my grandparents on their wedding day. They recently celebrated 50 years of marriage! 50 years!

That seems like such a huge number when you think about it in terms of marriage. It seems like the value of a marriage has gone down as time goes by.

You hear of divorce more frequently now than ever before and it’s looked at much differently as well. It used to be shamful if you were divorced or getting divorced. Some people and places even shunned those who were divorced. Today, we have divorce or freedom parties!

What a difference time makes.

I like to think that I try my hardest to model my relationship after my grandparents who have been together all this time. I’m sure they have hit a bumpy road or 12 but I never heard about it or saw any evidence of it. I only see love and admiration.

Don’t get me wrong, I do believe in divorce in certain instances of course but I feel like so many people just give up. Marriage is a full time job and you are usually required to work pretty hard at it. People change so much and so many times throughout their lives and I’m sure some of those changes can cause strain on a relationship but giving up should never be an option.

My beautiful grandparents stil look at each other with the same love in their eyes as they did 50 years ago.

I’m quite proud to say that my grandparents celebrated a 50th wedding anniversary. I’m proud of them and amazed by their love. We love you Granny and Gramps and congratulations again on a wonderful and happy marriage! Here’s to many more years of love!

How long have you been married? Are you divorced? What is the longest marriage of someone you know?

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Blueberry Muffins

So this is the story of Blueberry Muffins. It has a lot of meaning to me (Matt) and it has had an impact on some of the people I’ve told the story to.
Obviously, like most people I loved my grandfather. He was a fun, happy person with a huge sense of humor and was quite a prankster. He loved to enjoy a laugh at someone else’s expense (a quality that was passed down to me).

My grandfather had been deaf from a very young age but that just seemed to add to his awesome personality. One of his favorite things in the world was a blueberry muffin. He LOVED blueberry muffins. He also felt that Dunkin Donuts made a fine one.

One day years ago I was driving around town doing “important” errands. Now, I don’t even have the slightest idea of what I was doing that was so important but at the time they seemed crucial. As my grandparents now lived in the same town, I drove past the street they lived on. To this day I can’t drive past that street without thinking of them. As I passed by and knowing there was a Dunkin Donuts just a few minutes away I thought “Hey, I should run by and get Grampy some blueberry muffins”. That would be a great idea ! He wouldn’t expect it and it would sure make his day. But because these errands I was doing were so “important”, I decided that I had to finish what I was doing first…then I would go get the muffins and bring them to Grampy.It would only be a couple of hours and then I’d go over and make his day ! Good plan !

I was looking forward to randomly spending some time with him laughing and eating muffins. We were pretty close.

About 30 minutes later I got a call from my mom. She didn’t know exactly what happened, but she told me Grampy was being taken to the hospital by ambulance. She said that he had stopped breathing but had been revived. I sped toward Grampy’s house but I was too late, the ambulance had left. A firefighter still on scene told me what hospital he was taken to…so I sped there.

After some time passed doctors told us that he was alive but only with the assistance of life support…there was no brain activity. After a couple of days Grampy passed away. Obviously I was very sad and to this day it bothers me. I should have brought him blueberry muffins when I had the chance. I had no way of knowing it would be my last chance. I put it off because life tricks you and makes you think things are important that in the overall view of life have no importance at all.

In no way did I last see Grampy on bad terms, but I did miss my last opportunity to put a smile on his face…to make his day. I had no way to know. That’s life. Its unpredictable. I learned a valuable lesson that day…the hard way. I learned that you should bring blueberry muffins to the people you love as often as you can…every time you think of it. I learned that “Blueberry Muffins” is a metaphor. I learned that NOTHING, no matter how important it may seem at the time can even begin to compare to making someone you love happy. Family is #1 over anything no matter what. I learned that you should never leave someone you love on bad terms. You never know what can happen. Anyone and anything can end at any time with no notice.

Blueberry muffins can be just that…some delicious muffins. It can also be a hug, a phone call, a joke, a laugh or countless other things. Since that day I have lived my life by “Blueberry Muffins” and will never make that mistake again. Don’t let life fool you into thinking that anything is more important or urgent than family or the people you love…because its not. Now I will drop ANYTHING at any time for family and loved ones. Don’t ever leave angry and if you do, go back ! Even if it’s just to say”Hey, I’m still pissed but I do love you”. Or just randomly stop by and bring them some Blueberry muffins.

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